Well, I know *I* don't hold with the idea of "lesbians" who sleep with men occasionally...but that's me, and I'm a well-known pedant. :-P

eh it's just a label...
from the other side, a lot of gay men occasionally want or think about having sex with women....but don't want their friends to find out they're a "traitor" lol
once again "bi" has this bad stigma, most people seem to associate the label "bi" as confused and not knowing which side of the fence you want to be on.
most psychologists agree that few people are 100% gay, or 100% strait
also a lot of lesbians seem to have fears that their partner will leave them for dick

i always thought that "bi-sexual", by definition, is sleeping with men AND women.


if they are lesbians, why don tthey just use a strap on with a girl?

"Fucking a man doesn't make you gay, loving a man does". Oobviously the quote was targeted at men, but you get the idea.

Maybe that's the difference? Having sex with men does not mean you automatically will have a relationship with them. I don't know, I've never done it, but I think there is a meaningful difference there for me.

I think what bothered me about this whole thing was the fact that these friends know that I'm 'bi' and are familiar with the judgements I get from many in the lesbian community simply because I'm honest abou the fact that I enjoy sex with men. It felt to me as though they were afraid to admit the fluidity of their own sexuality. The 'label' lesbian' was so important to them that to simply imply that thier sexuality was more than the label was offensive to them.

To me it seems they were acting as though they were ashamed of their sexuality, afraid of what their peers would think of them iif they were honest about it. Personally, I think if more people were honest about their sexuality - there would be far less stigma and judgements made about orientation of any kind.

As for the love part of it all - the term "bi-sexual" doesn't imply that one 'loves' both genders it simply describes the ability to be sexual with both genders.

I consider my sexuality fluid. I feel that Kinsey's conclusions were a fairly accurate analysis of human sexuality. I hate labels too and 'lesbian' is just as much of a confining label as any. Why insist on a label when it's obvious that our sexuality is far more expansive than that?

i know straight guys who have shared a woman on occaission. i wouldn't consider them bi unless they considered themselves bi. it is rare that an individual be split 50/50. there seem to be leanings in one direction or an other, and of course, that too can change.

On one hand, someone who has the capacity to enjoy sex with men is clearly not 100% lesbian.

On the other hand, one has to wonder how much sense it makes to call a woman who has a 95% preference for women by the same label as someone who's split down the middle.

I usually call that category of people "homo-flexable", which has it's counter-point "hetero-flexable".

Of course, what orientation one identifies as often has as much to do with culture and societal perception as with who a person is attracted to - if not more! Which I think is pretty unfortunate.