You know.... Im on a site like that too. And I am CONSTANTLY getting messages from guys. Its fucking retarded. It's like they see your picture, and just don't even bother reading ANY info. It takes five minutes, at least read what the person is looking for, if nothign else!!

Dude, I like girls and boys and don't like getting messages like that. I just want to scream at people sometimes and explain to them that my sexuality exists for my pleasure - not theirs! For some reason it just makes me feel totally disrespected. Sorry you gotta deal with this shit, sister. Especially when you have expressed your desires so clearly. People just ignoring them for the sake of satiating their own is just plain rude and just about the biggest turn off I can think of. i don't think that these arrangements are bad either, but the whole one guy and two girls thing doesn't appeal to my sexuality - probably just another reaction to patriarchal, heterosexist society and how misunderstood I feel by it. But hey, this is turning into a rant of my own. So I'll stop now and go chill for a bit.

Peace.

I blush to admit but I've been in more then my share of the triangle relationships and even though I am in to women, I usually found that the women my male partner and I shared was more to his liking then to mine. (can't buse their delicate little... egos.. yah egos... that's it...) *snicker*
Anyway hang in there hon and if they annoy you that much Let me "talk" to them... I'm itching for a fight anyway.

sorry you had to go through that . i had that happen to me once, only i am bi. but the person that asked me to do that was a friend of mine and the situation was verry unconfortable. so i ofcourse declined and now we are not as close as we used to be. but i am not in a relationship right now, and i was looking for a relationship with a girl. i have never really had one. a relationship i mean.... i'v had sex with plenty.

I'm a bi woman that loves the "triangle" situation, and in my perfect world, I'll have a lifetime of it. Just haven't found my girl yet. BUT.....I realize that I'm in the minority,and so, I'm verrrrrry careful about approaching womenfolk, cause the last thing I want is to be "one of those couples". ICK!!

I hate hate hate those "I'm looking for a birthday surprise for my hubby" notes. So what - buy him a cake, or hire a professional for gawd's sake! Gives those of us actually looking for a "*relationship* with a woman where she's loved and lusted after equally by her girlfriend and her boyfriend a bad name!

And even though I'm clear about what I am, and am not looking for, I still get ridiculous requests (from men) to have a quickie, etc. So.... I think it's that a lot of people still (wrongly) assume that "bi=sleep_with_anyone" and that most lesbians still want a cock now and again. How very naive and idiotic......

Hang in there Autumn - and if you need any help writing a scathing reply, I'm pretty good at it. ;)

Ms.K