I just got done with a relationship with a man where he was so affraid of intimacy. I have never had a relationship with a women but I imagine it would be quite intense intimacy wise. Do you think Lesbians have more intimacy ( emotional, spiritual, etc.. ) than hetero couples or does it just depend on the person?.
Of course it dependends on the person but in my relationships with women the desire for intimacy seems greater.
Or maybe it's with age we drop some of the ego that makes intimacy hard.
Anyway , your thoughts are appriciated.
Of course it dependends on the person but in my relationships with women the desire for intimacy seems greater.
Or maybe it's with age we drop some of the ego that makes intimacy hard.
Anyway , your thoughts are appriciated.
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Re: Do lesbians share more intimacy than hetero couples?
Mon, February 26, 2007 - 3:11 PMWith me, I'm more ready and willing to open up all the dark corners to a female than I am a male and sooner. with my last hetero relationship on both sides there were communication problems that could have prolonged the relationship but oh well now, you know? Even being broken up I still keep in touch with some of my ex-girls and we still seem really close. (thereby increasing emotional and physical intimacy)
I hope that made sense.
HEARTS
Gem
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Re: Do lesbians share more intimacy than hetero couples?
Mon, February 26, 2007 - 5:36 PMI think because we are the more openly emotional sex that sex with another woman can be way more intense than otherwise. Too bad a lot of great girls hide behind their men when they do want to have sex with you. I've come to dislike 3sums quite a bit.
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Mon, February 26, 2007 - 6:12 PMBecause we are women we tend to let the gaurd down much more easily with women rather than with men. Making intimacy much more easy (women can relate to women). -
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Tue, February 27, 2007 - 1:47 AMThat's what I thought. I am looking for that intimacy but with a man. Any suggestions? -
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Tue, February 27, 2007 - 5:50 AMFind a girly man? -
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Tue, February 27, 2007 - 7:28 AMI agree. -
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Re: Do lesbians share more intimacy than hetero couples?
Tue, February 27, 2007 - 7:30 AMYup...In my experience bi-boys (with a definitely feminine side) are GREAT at intimacy.
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Fri, March 2, 2007 - 7:00 PMA pre-op MtF transsexual is exactly that. It's very hard to find a sane one, but they do exist. -
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Thu, March 15, 2007 - 10:20 PM> It's very hard to find a sane one, but they do exist.
Agreed. I was pretty crazy/stressed during my early transition. It goes away quickly, though.
Just wait 6 months or so...
> A pre-op MtF transsexual is exactly that
I've been approaced by sisters with that attitude...and it is a MAJOR turn off. YMMV, though.
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Re: Do lesbians share more intimacy than hetero couples?
Mon, March 12, 2007 - 3:04 PMHmm...I'll have to respectfully disagree with all those posts that indicate women share deeper intimacy than hetero couples and that that kind of intimacy may only be found with a "girly" man. I do experience different kinds of intimacy with my husband and my live-in girlfriend (platonic girlfriend, that is).
My husband isn't "girly" in any way, but he is very balanced. A tough mountaineer with a yin tattoo. Ice-climber by day and taking tango lessons with me at night. He's very open, emotionally. We have deeper spiritual and emotional conversations than I've ever had with my girlfriends. He's the kind many women open up to (he doesn't really understand why), and he and his guy friends talk like girls about their relationships- except they're usually climbing some crazy peak at the time.
I know these few aren't the norm- but they're out there, just keep your eyes wide open ;) I'd look for men who are deeply confidant in themselves, they usually don't feel they have to protect their delicate egos (and men, generally speaking, are so much more delicate than women). -
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Tue, March 13, 2007 - 6:13 PM"I'll have to respectfully disagree with all those posts that indicate women share deeper intimacy than hetero couples and that that kind of intimacy may only be found with a "girly" man."
I respectfully agree, even though I was the one who made the girly man comment. I was being a bit of a facetious ass because I found it ironic that a woman was asking about how to find intimacy with a man on the Girls Who Love Girls Tribe.
I'm not a fan of girly men - I mean, I don't like my girls girly why would I like my men that way? :) I have known women who are terribly at intimacy and there are men out there who CAN do it.
I wish you well.
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Re: Do lesbians share more intimacy than hetero couples?
Mon, March 5, 2007 - 4:47 PMI definitely have more intimate...meaning spiritual/emotional closeness,
getting to know the "insides of someone" with women,
I feel it is both my capacity, and the tendancies of my partners too.
Women (in my experience, my partners I guess) tend to have more
interest in intimacy, eye gazing, deep sharing and the like....
