Advertisement
I work at my school's gym, and when i get out of school I will be at a healthclub setting....
and I live in the midwest
so you can see how me comming out at work would be difficult (locker room, showers etc)
I don't want women to be afraid that I'm hitting on them or checking them out you know?
especially in this setting where people are already very self concious.
but then I sort of feel like a hipocrite that i'm not open about it. I know my sexuaity shouldn't come into play in the workplace, but damnit I AM around a lot of cute girls and it would be nice if I could let them know I was interested LOL
~frustration~
I guess I'd just have to be extra friendly, make friends and test the waters before asking one out. or hope one of them has the balls to ask ME out..I think it would be more professional that way, than to just come out
on a side note, lately while I'm awake I've been attracted to nothing but women, everywhere I go I see a hottie and bite my lower lip! but then when I'm assleep I have these erotic dreams about men...not that this bothers me, I just think it's odd....
anyone else have a similar experience?
and I live in the midwest
so you can see how me comming out at work would be difficult (locker room, showers etc)
I don't want women to be afraid that I'm hitting on them or checking them out you know?
especially in this setting where people are already very self concious.
but then I sort of feel like a hipocrite that i'm not open about it. I know my sexuaity shouldn't come into play in the workplace, but damnit I AM around a lot of cute girls and it would be nice if I could let them know I was interested LOL
~frustration~
I guess I'd just have to be extra friendly, make friends and test the waters before asking one out. or hope one of them has the balls to ask ME out..I think it would be more professional that way, than to just come out
on a side note, lately while I'm awake I've been attracted to nothing but women, everywhere I go I see a hottie and bite my lower lip! but then when I'm assleep I have these erotic dreams about men...not that this bothers me, I just think it's odd....
anyone else have a similar experience?
posted by:
|
Advertisement
Advertisement
-
Unsu...
Re: workplace and sexuality advice.
Thu, April 27, 2006 - 11:03 PMI was browsing and found your post. If you don't mind a thought from a 40 year old man on your delema here what I think.
You are no different then anyone else in a "traditional" setting. The thing you and any of us need to remember is that if we are honest and do not hide our feeling, yet at the same time do not act like a rabbit in heat, chasing everything that moves everything will work out fine.
If you find someone that you are attracted to take it slow so that you can find out if they are interested, ask them qualifing question to probe their state of mind. Find out if they have ever been with or are interested in being with a women. If they are of like minds then go for it and see what happens. If they are not of like mind just find a way to ease back out of the topic and move on to someone else. The most important thing is not to let love pass you by because you were trying "not to freak people out". Different people will respond differently to different situation. If they are good people they will not care about your prefferences and see you for the person you are and treat you as such.
Good luck and I hope you find the right one for you.
Ron -
-
Re: workplace and sexuality advice.
Fri, April 28, 2006 - 5:11 PM"If they are good people they will not care about your prefferences and see you for the person you are and treat you as such. "
well see that's the problem, in the midwest, it's really not ok to be gay, and while most people will be cool with it, if others find out it could jeporadize a lot, and make a lt of people treat me differently. I don't want to be a lepper..
but yeah my best bet is to just make friends...and then if I still like them test the waters to see if they're interested or open.
but I just feel trapped by staying in at work, I know I "could" come out. but around here, it's just best not to. -
-
Re: workplace and sexuality advice.
Fri, April 28, 2006 - 5:39 PMA friend of my partner just got "releived" of her position in a private school (she was a teacher) for not saying that "god thinks it's wrong for same sex couples to have children." and basicly for trying to teach them to be open minded. *SIGH*
I can't remember what state she was in but it was in the mid-west. So I sympathisize with you Lizabat. -
-
Re: workplace and sexuality advice.
Fri, April 28, 2006 - 5:58 PMyeah it's like, there wouldn't be any direct consequences, like they can't say, you can't work here because you're gay, BUT they can find other reasons you know? or at least reasons not to promote me etc... -
-
Re: workplace and sexuality advice.
Sat, April 29, 2006 - 9:44 AMI know what you mean hon *big hugs*
-
-
-
-
