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Hi everyone,
I'm new to this tribe, so please forgive me if this is a topic that has been discussed before and people don't want to rehash it. I was just wondering what people feel are the differences between being a man versus being with a woman. I got into this discussion with my rooommate the other night (who is very straight) about how I feel like I get completely different things from the two.
The ancient Greeks believed that the male/male union was the holiest union possible and that's pretty much how I feel about being with women. To generalize a bit, what I told my roommate was, when I'm with a woman, I feel like I'm worshiping, when I'm with a guy, I feel like I'm performing. Does anyone else feel this way or someway similar? Or someway different? Either way, I'd love to hear it.
I'm new to this tribe, so please forgive me if this is a topic that has been discussed before and people don't want to rehash it. I was just wondering what people feel are the differences between being a man versus being with a woman. I got into this discussion with my rooommate the other night (who is very straight) about how I feel like I get completely different things from the two.
The ancient Greeks believed that the male/male union was the holiest union possible and that's pretty much how I feel about being with women. To generalize a bit, what I told my roommate was, when I'm with a woman, I feel like I'm worshiping, when I'm with a guy, I feel like I'm performing. Does anyone else feel this way or someway similar? Or someway different? Either way, I'd love to hear it.
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Re: Girls/Guys - what's the difference
Mon, February 27, 2006 - 4:41 PMI think you hit it on the head. When I"m with a guy I definitely feel more like I"m performing, and don't feel as close. When I'm with a woman I feel much more at home, and like it's more equal, yet I can understand the worshipping aspect as well. It's defnitely waaaay two different things. -
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Re: Girls/Guys - what's the difference
Tue, February 28, 2006 - 9:03 PMAwesome. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. It just seems to me like sometimes I see women relating to women in the same negative ways that I see men relating to us and that really bothers me. Like, can we not imagine another way? Obviously it isn't all the time, but it's often enough that it seems like even when we don't have a strict heterosexuality, we internalize some of the patterns nonetheless. And yeah, there is a certain amount of familiarity and comfort that I can feel instantaneously with a woman, but that I have only achieved with a handful of guys. -
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Re: Girls/Guys - what's the difference
Mon, March 13, 2006 - 2:49 AMI have to agree with the performing aspect. I have fallen into that pattern and found it hard to switch to being with women because I all of a sudden feel really silly and lost as to what to do just from the old patern...It takes me awhile to transition...
On another note I have a question about men for ya.. I thought maybe you might have some insight for me...
Thru my own experiences and by talking to many friends I've seen a pattern of male behavior that confuses the hell out of me and seems to drive women to insane levels of emotional turmoil...
This strange pattern is one that comes after the female has gone thru a traumatic experience. ESP. if the man is responsible for the trauma...
The female needs understanding and emotional security with or without words ( words are better ). Simple in our heads...
The male starts to behaving like a Buffoon = ( French clown ) from the 1700 s that ran from enemy to enemy barely escaping Death.
There skill was there ability to confuse and disarm the enemy with irrelevant tales of dramatic proportion, sudden amnesia followed by a strange speech impairments, Embarrassing tribal love dances that make one want to cry and laugh at the same time ,
And finally the magical Disappearing act like the ones you'd see on the late night vampire films with the puff of smoke and maniacal trails of laughter...
I have my Theories..Please share with me yours.
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