this is pretty much my ideal too.

i want someone who knows i am married and is okay with that. i do not plan to be unmarried.

someone who is self-loving, self-assured and confident in themselves and what they want.

someone who has a sense of humor, preferably twisted and loves to laugh, sometimes at oneself =P

someone NOT interested in being involved with my husband too.

it doesn't seem like that much, but damn is it hard to find =)

The best way imo to gain the ideal relationship is to write down and define what you want, although I do find it takes away some of the wildness and magic in variety and randomness...

I'm happily married, and I would like to explore a relationship with another woman who is happy, confident, mature and shining. :)
I'm happy to share with others including my husband, as long as all involved are extremely safe and respectful. I have very high standards so I think it's going to be tough to find someone, but the least I can do is enchant for her.

The less expectations I have regarding relationships the better; I dislike having to define them as one type or another; perhaps that's why they call them "open" relationships.

Meka

idealy, I guess I would like a woman SO for an LTR, mostly monogamous, the focus of the relationship would be her and I. but then maybe occasionally we could bring a guy into the mix for fun...but mostly just have it be us girls.

*delurking*

i'm pretty conventional - monogamous LTR with a female. date. get to know each other. no U-hauls, please. males...well, while i wouldn't rule it totally out as i don't consider myself 100% homosexual, i just don't see myself getting married and the whole 9 yards. i'm looking to meet a woman and maybe fall in love. that sounds corny but that's what i'd like.

is this another tribe that's dominated by bi/polys? i'm 100% supportive of that type of lifestyle but it's not my scene. are there any tribes out there that are more woman/woman-oriented (bi friendly, of course) w/o the guy/poly factor? i'm looking to meet like-minded women.

Easy-peasy...exactly what I have with my Beca. :-)

Which is to say, a poly relationship which grants us both the commitment and intimacy, AND the freedom to explore others (together and alone). It's never easy to maintain or drama-free...but the rewards are SO worth it with the right primary partner. Like my Beca. *twitterpated sigh*

Our love for one another is practically unconditional and unshakeable, and has seen us thru some issues around jealousy and what for me was the fear of the unknown (never having had a bi grrl as a primary since ceasing to be bi myself...she's made sharing her with men just SO much less scary than it would otherwise have been for me, and before anyone says anything, that's just to do with me and my quirks...no reflection on mi women or men in general!)

For other, "non-primary" partners, I prefer more of an easy-going "friend/playmate" vibe. I love being able to have fuzzy boundaries between friendship and sexy playfullness. >:}

I'm in a very happy place rightnow, relationship-wise. *purrs*